People's discomfort with the disabled

A lot of people are uncomfortable around disabled people, unless there is someone in their immediate family with a disability. I can understand the discomfort on some level. You never quite know how to talk to them or approach them. If you work with them your first instinct is to do everything for them when in fact a lot of them can do things on their own.

My issue with people's attitude towards the disabled, is with those people that are purely ignorant. Whenever people hear that a residence or facility for the developmentally challenged is about to open in their neighborhood or nearby, they lose it. They start petitioning to have the agency blocked from opening the house. People seem to forget that these people are not their disability. They not defined by what ails them. Just as you and I are not defined by our respective jobs.

People worry about their children's safety, which is fine an understandable, but you can't expect it to be okay for you to impede on other people's rights just because you paid $500,000 for your house in a nice neighborhood and don't want anyone else there. The developmentally disabled have the same rights that everyone else has and people should just grow up and get over it.

Mother returns adopted child to Russia.

Just yesterday I was talking to a friend about how people have no idea what having children is all about. And then I stumbled on a news that a mother returned her adopted son to Russia on a plane by himself. I can't say how enraged that makes me. Children don't ask to be put in the situations that they're put in, and when you make the decision to adopt a kid from another country, you have made the choice to take care of that kid. It's your responsibility to make sure that child is safe and look after his mental well being. That womb should have done her homework. She should have found out information on where he came from and what his life was like. She should have paid for him to see a shrink instead of branding him a psychopath. That was her responsibility. She opted to adopt him so she has no right to think she can just give up on him. It's just like that woman who adopted a black baby but then decided to return him because she didn't feel as connected to him as she did her other children. These women need to stop playing with people's lives and realize that they are screwing up these children's lives. If you don't think you can handle adoption, then don't adopt. But if you make the decision to go ahead with it, then you should be there for the full ride.

Apologies? I think not.

People always want you to be apologetic about everything, and I must admit there is the rare occasion when you find yourself in a position where you have to offer an apology for a wrong doing. But there are also some moments where you should stand up for your ideals and refuse to apologize.

One such moment occurred when I forgot to pick up an item for myself which was quite important. My partner thought that I needed to apologize to her because she had taken upon herself to make plans for the item and my not bringing it was a derailment of her plans.   I can understand if I did something wrong to hurt her feelings, but I refuse to accept that I need to apologize for failing to get the item when she expected it. It wasn't something she needed, it was something I required.